I am a good mother

Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #6 – Developing Positive Self-Talk

This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about Developing Positive Self-Talk. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Watching Our Language.

My mantra for this week was to remind myself that I am a good mother.  It’s a hard thing to believe because I constantly critique myself and worry that my actions and reactions are moulding my children into emotionally challenged adults.

But for this week, instead of giving myself hell for yelling, screaming, or throwing things, I decided to praise myself for the times I got through the hardest situations, using a quiet voice and gentle understanding.  Now I don’t scream and yell all the time, but I have been know to “lose my shit” once in awhile.  And then I feel like the worst mother on earth for that.  But it was my mom who, when counselling me after an unfortunate screaming event, said “Do you give yourself praise when you don’t lose it?  As mother’s we need to notice the great things we do, rather than beat ourselves up for the times we can’t control our emotions.”

There were a few challenging episodes this week, but one I can remember vividly was leaving Heritage Park, after a nice day of rides and ice cream, and the kids were whining and crying, saying they didn’t want to go home and refusing to get into the car.  I managed to stay calm, let them know that I understood how they were feeling and that it was hard to leave such a fun place, but it was time to go, and continued to encourage them to get into the car.  Sounds easier than it was.  By the time I finally got the second one buckled up, I was ready to scream, but  I didn’t.  The reason I didn’t is because I want to set that good example for them, that they don’t need to freak out in order to get what they want.

Anyway, as soon as I sat in the front seat, I thought to myself, “Nice one Michelle, you rocked it!  Way to control yourself.  You are a good mother.”

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

Affirmations– Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting turns anger into Peaceful Parenting Affirmations for herself.

Week #6- developing Positive Self Talk– Jennifer from Children’s Directory says yes every day for a year.

Positive Self Talk – Peaceful Parenting Challenge – Week 6 – Katrina from Kalem Photography has been developing positive self-talk for about 30 years.

Positive Self-Talk – Ricky from Daddy Blogger is feeling more comfortable with this week’s challenge.

Week 6 – Positive Self Talk– Amanda from Sticky Hands practices positive self-talk out loud for the benefit of her most important audience.

Peaceful Parenting: Week 6 –  I am NOT an Independent Woman … and that is okay.- Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat reminds herself it’s ok to ask for help.

Positive Transitions – Lolly from My Journey Home is back to a stressful job after maternity leave.