Being in the Now

Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #3- Practicing Mindfulness

This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about Practicing Mindfulness. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Slowing Down.

Being in the Now – Week #3 of the Peaceful Parenting Challenge, Mindfulness

“Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans,” said John Lennon in his song “Beautiful Boy”.  I believe this whole heartedly.  Relishing your life at this exact moment is, in my opinion, true happiness.

That’s why I was so excited about this week’s challenge to practice mindfulness.  Unlike last week’s challenge where I felt like I’d been there, done that, this week, practicing mindfulness was new to me.  I get excited often and my thoughts tend to take over my being, and when that happens I usually stop and start to breathe slowly to slow myself down.  This week, I added mindfulness to my calm down routine and it was awesome!

I found that when I stopped, started taking deep breaths, closed my eyes and concentrated on either what I could feel or hear, I was able to be totally present for a good amount of time.  Concentrating on what I could hear or feel gave my mind something to do which kept it busy.

Just last night, my husband, my brother and I were all sitting outside on the patio after dinner.  The kids were playing and I started to think about what had to be done: collect dishes, put them in the dishwasher, get kids in, get them bathed….etc.  But then I felt the warmth of the sun on my skin and closed my eyes and just paid attention to how good that felt.  I felt the sun on my forehead, my arms, and my neck and it felt amazing!  It was so powerful to just sit for two minutes and really take in the moment.

This week I plan to practice a bit of mindfulness with my 4-year-old.  What works for me will work for him too!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

No Need To Schedule Mindfulness– Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting discovers mindfulness isn’t something she needs to make time for.

Living in the Present Moment – Amber from strocel.com shares how she has been practicing presence.

Practicing Mindfulness Ricky at Daddy Blogger takes his wife on a date to The Dark Table restaurant in Kitsilano to practice mindfulness.

Being Mindful – Peaceful Parenting Challenge – Week 3 – Katrina from Kalem Photography finds her way back to a good old habit.

Week #3- Practicing Mindfulness – Jennifer from The Children’s Directory discovers how sometimes we get so caught up in all the garbage that life dumps on us that we forget
the little things that makes it all worth it.

Week 3 – MindfullnessAmanda from Family and Baby Sign Language harnesses her power to attract more positive.

Lesson Already Learned – Verena from Memory Maker Events realizes she’s already learned mindfulness.

Mindfulness of Self – Week 3: Peaceful Parenting – Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat finds mindfulness exhausting.

Being in the Now – Week #3 of the Peaceful Parenting Challenge, Mindfulness – Michelle from My Peaceful Parenting finds true happiness in the moment.

Have a full mind?  Try being mindful! – Lolly from My Journey Home challenges herself to live in the moment and stop looking forward.

Deep Breaths

Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #2- Mindful Breathing.

This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about creating awareness. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Practicing Mindfulness.

I am no stranger to this week’s challenge.  About six years ago a naturopath prescribed deep breathing exercises for me because she said I was anxious.  That first prescription has been compounded on by a variety of sources like yoga and practicing Hypnobabies in preparation for the birth of my son.

I heard a good quote from a yogi once.  She said that we are all given a certain number of breaths, and the quicker you breath, the quicker you expire!

After reading this weeks challenge I have been thinking more about deep breathing.  The other day I put the deep breathing into use while dealing with my screaming 2.5 yr old who didn’t want to go down for a nap.  I tried to reason with him, but he was really frustrated and tired, so instead of “flipping my lid”, I chose to stand in the room with him and practice my deep breathing.  It calmed both of us down and I feel like I was teaching by example.  Its amazing how powerful breath is.

I’ve always thought of deep breathing as a great way to centre myself, but through this challenge I’m thinking it’d be a great tool to teach my children to help them to settle themselves down.

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

Teaching My Spirited Son About Deep Breathing – Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting shares some ways to teach kids about deep breathing.

Deep Breathing Challenge Ricky at Daddy Blogger has been practicing and will be putting his deep breathing to the test on his family trip.

Just Breathe – Peaceful Parenting Challenge – Week 2 – Katrina from Kalem Photography goes up against her incessant need to be busy.

Remember to Breathe – Jennifer from The Children’s Directory discovers how breathing can work with parents-in-laws, friends, partners, co-workers and annoying neighbours as well as children.

 Week 2 & Epic Fail -Amanda from Family and Baby Sign Language discovers how challenging it is to find a few minutes to herself.

Breathing On  – Verena from Memory Maker Events talks the difference mindful breathing made in her busy days.

Epic Fail — Peaceful Parenting Week 2 Challenge 2: Breathe – Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat wasn’t drawn to deep breathing.

Week #2 Peaceful Parenting Challenge – Michelle from My Peaceful Parenting models deep breathing for her sons.

Week #1 Suddenly aware of all this anger….

Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #1 Creating Awareness.

This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about creating awareness. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Mindful Breathing.

So this week I was trying to be aware of my feelings.  It didn’t tend to happen at the time I had an intense feeling, but rather when I reflected later.  My biggest trigger?  My children not listening to me, especially in public. Guess I care a lot more about what people think of me as a parent than I thought!

There was one especially bad day when I took my oldest to get his hair cut.  The lady said I would have to wait a little bit….fast forward 25 minutes later and after telling my children to be quiet repeatedly, and trying to keep them away from the toys for sale in the waiting area, I blew my lid and left!  But that day had compounding triggers.  I was PMS’ing and I had missed a day of my anti depressants 3 days before (the down day tends to be a few days after the missed day).

It is enlightening to see how much of a trigger non compliance is.  Especially since kids are known for shutting their parents out!  Guess I better learn how to deal with it!

Check out some of the other blog posts from parents who are taking part in the challenge as well 🙂

Balancing being a stay-at-home-mom & working from home – Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting realizes her home base business and mommy duties don’t mix well.

My Top Card – Amber from Strocel.com shares her experience attending the Peaceful Parenting Mini Retreat.

Peaceful Parenting Challenge Week 1 – Katrina from Kalem Photography explores her expectations on herself and asking for help.

Peaceful Parenting Challenge Week 1: Awareness – Jennifer from The Children’s Directory talks about her frustrations over getting out the door and dinner time.

Emotional Highs and Lows of Parenting  – Verena from Memory Maker Events talks about the emotional highs and lows of parenting.

Peaceful Parenting Challenge Week 1 – Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat is reminded about checking her “stuff” at the door before dealing with her twins.

The Two Faced Mom in search of peace – Loly from My Journey Home chats about expectations.

Amanda from Family and Baby Sign Language describes her physical response to intense emotions.

Ricky at Daddy Blogger reflects on how peaceful the first year of his daughter’s life was and wonders where all that peace has gone.